Everyone feels culture shock to a degree, but I made it MUCH worse for myself because my expectations of myself were so unreasonable. I often denied myself the right to feel happy in the present, on the premise it had to be earned by some future accomplishment.
It was self-harm, and ironically it put me in such an emotional state that I’d never be able to reach any future goals.
Just this evening I was talking about money and happiness with my twin brother and his friend Kelly. She said “You could be happy. On the other hand you could be happy and have a nice bag on your shoulder.”
This too is self-harm.
There are only three things I feel I HAVE to do, and they’re really rather selfish when it comes down to it.
- Look after my health.
- Show gratitude.
- Try to expand the circles I live in.
Why selfish? Because these things make me happy. Of course, when I do these things it seems to benefit others and makes me a useful, likeable person to have around. But the core motivations are self-interested.
Be selfish. Let yourself be happy. Let yourself be happy NOW. You don’t have to “earn” it.